February 14, 2008 |
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone. Today is supposed to be the most romantic day of the year and I hope it is for each and every one of you. And if you’re thinking of getting married or otherwise settling in to one relationship, congratulations. You are fortunate, brave, and, if you’re like most of us, terrified. Why do so many couples... READ MORE
February 10, 2008 |
The Tyra episode I taped (and blogged about) a few months ago will air on Valentine’s Day. The show is called “Will You Marry Me?” My appearance accounts for about 1/2 of 1% of the entire show. Although my hair takes up the entire screen. They really super-poofed my hair. That’s me in the back, looking ferklempt (not to mention... READ MORE
February 7, 2008 |
Today is Tibetan New Year. Happy Year of the Earth Mouse!
February 1, 2008 |
Satta Massagana The Abyssinians So beautiful. Such harmonies. So ridiculously laid back. National anthem of reggae, some say. I hear that the non-English sounding lyrics (Satta Massagana Ahamlai, for example) are Hebrew. But I speak Hebrew and I don’t understand these words. But what do I know. Jah Rastafari. 08-satta-massagana.mp3
January 31, 2008 |
The kind that kicks ass here on earth. Me, many years ago–early 80s. Plus a lot of muscle. This is for you, Davee.
January 23, 2008 |
I usually don’t play music when I write–too distracting. With one exception. When I want to get serious, I put this on repeat and listen to it over and over. I don’t know why but for me it’s perfect–perfect tempo, perfectly spacious. Love. From the “Diva” soundtrack from about 20 yrs ago. sentimental-walk.mp3
January 22, 2008 |
Just started “following” a woman on Twitter (this is not like stalking, you’re supposed to follow people) who blogs about stepmothering. Her stepkid is little, mine is 21. When I married his dad, he was 11 so I’ve been part of his life for a fair amount of time. There have been super-high pros and super-low cons. But—and I’m not... READ MORE
January 17, 2008 |
I am one of the luckiest people alive because I have some amazing friendships. Like the guy mentioned above who e-mailed me those comments about Dylan. I mean how awesome is that. This morning was talking to another friend who said, when I was telling him about trying to become a better, more disciplined writer, “Sometimes the energy of self-hate... READ MORE
January 16, 2008 |
Whenever I find myself in a conversation about interpersonal difficulties (“My boss is a screamer,” “I can’t get my boyfriend to ever be on time,” “My sister cannot commit to anything”) I always ask, “have you ever heard of the enneagram?” I get one of four responses: 1. No. Not interested in that kind of hoodoo. 2. Isn’t that some... READ MORE
January 16, 2008 |
Was e-mailing with a friend yesterday about the kookiness of trying to make a living as a writer when he said this: Being an artist is a risk. Risking non acceptance. Art has an interior dimension. One is groping for what has profound MEANING. Then to present that sense with integrity is vital. But it is a risk because it... READ MORE
January 14, 2008 |
Woke at 530 am. Was nervous about meetings today and after much thought and study, devised the following step-by-step strategy: 1. Feel nervous. 2. Rouse good cheer and trust in my own intelligence. 3. Drop all of that. 4. Click in with the atmosphere of the meeting and allow it to affect me. 5. See what happens next. Strategy was... READ MORE
January 13, 2008 |
Unlike fiction writers, we non-fiction, self-helpy people don’t submit books, we submit book proposals, a lengthy outline of an idea. Good news: The book is sold before you start writing it. Bad news: creative direction is subject to group-think.In writing 4 books, I’ve screwed this creative direction thing up every which way. I’ve acted the know-it-all and ignored valuable input... READ MORE