The one where I asked the Dalai Lama a question

September 8, 2015   |   9 Comments

Some years ago, my friend Josh was organizing a press conference at MIT for the Dalai Lama and the prominent neuroscientist Richard Davidson. They were there to answer questions about the Dalai Lama’s decades-long dialogue with scientists exploring the relationship of science and Eastern thought. Josh asked me if I wanted to go and of course I did.

There were about 30 of us seated in the audience and the Dalai Lama and Richie Davidson were about twenty feet away on a slightly raised platform, seated at a table.

The journalists asked the Dalai Lama things like, “How did you become interested science?” “Why did you want to conduct these meetings with scientists? “What has been the purpose of these dialogues?” All perfectly reasonable questions.

Upon hearing them, however, I realized, I am the only Buddhist in the room. (Besides Josh.) Here was a great spiritual adept who could answer my questions about life, death, the meaning of it all, and so on.

I suddenly felt an obligation, an urge, something, to ask a question that would reference the dharma and make this not just about science. (Does that make sense?) It was like we had Plato or Seneca the Younger or Jigme Lingpa or Nikola Tesla in the room and we were asking him how he liked his lunch or some such. (To me.)

One of the most essential Buddhist teachings (perhaps it is the central teaching) is that all beings possess Buddhanature. All beings are capable of complete wakefulness and liberation. We each have this seed, every ant, every cat (obvs), every human, every angel, every demon, seen or unseen. Because of this, there is perpetual cause for rejoicing and also for hope.

(Once, many years ago, His Holiness was meeting with a group of Western therapists and meditation teachers. One of them, Sharon Salzburg, asked him how she could help her students with low self-esteem. Low self-esteem? What is that, His Holiness asked. I’ve never heard of that. His translator tried to explain, which was not so easy because there is no word in Tibetan for “low self-esteem.” Finally, he succeeded. HHDL was incredulous. Are you sure your students have this, he pressed? She said, indeed they do. In fact, I myself suffer from this. This blew his mind, apparently. He pointed to everyone in the room, Do you have this? Do you? They all nodded yes, He said, How can you have low self-esteem if you possess Buddhanature?)

When it comes to Buddhanature, there are no maybes about it. There are thousands, maybe millions of teachings on Buddhanature. It has been studied, analyzed, classified, described, and pointed to over 2600 years. There are teachings on it that are so sharp and shattering that they can only be taught in a literal millisecond. (This is called “pointing out instruction.”) And there are teachings that occupy volumes upon volumes and describe each layer of Buddhanature in extraordinary detail. The Dalai Lama knows these teachings like FOR REAL. The vast sophistication and refinement of these teachings are literally beyond my comprehension. I’m not kidding.

The press conference was about to end. There is time for one more question, Josh said.

I was interested to see that my hand went up. (What was I going to ask him?!)

I stood up. I made anjali and bowed. Your Holiness, have any of your dialogues with scientists changed your view of Buddhanature?

My friends, I was a recipient of the Dalai Lama double take. Buddhanature? He said. Did you say Buddhanature? I said yes and he laughed his friggin head off for like two whole Dalai Lama minutes. He looked at Richie, pointed to him, and said something like, when you start studying Buddhanature, then I’ll know we’ve really got something (in some Dalai Lama sort of way). Still laughing.

Suddenly, he stopped laughing, looked at me pointblank, and said, “Too soon to tell.”

Interesting. No?!

Too soon to tell, my friends.

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  • Posted by:  Chris M

    Was honored to attend a function in which the Dalai Lama was the main speaker about two years ago. When he pointed out that the western study of the mind and human behavior is thousands of years behind the East I became interested in the study of the Buddhist . Still looking for a teacher..

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      It is lovely that you found the path! I hope you and your teacher meet each other soon. Warmly, Susan

  • Posted by:  Steven Smith

    Wow…how incredible Susan!!

    Loved this story…I think you are very brave, Susan getting up and asking the Dalai Lama that question …

    I remember reading about the Q&A you are referring to with the Dalai Lama about how westerners have low self-esteem (I sure do !)

    thank you for sharing this, Susan

  • Posted by:  Julie

    Hilarious! You now have your own authentic and personal comic relief by none other than the Dali Lama! Seriously?! Thank you for sharing! The laugh was a belly one! Metta-

  • Posted by:  Julie

    P.S. …and he is absolutely adorable when he laughs!

  • Posted by:  Margaret

    What I love about His Holiness is his sense of humor and his ability to be so present that he seems to lead with his sense of wonder, instead of some notion of who he’s supposed to be. Great story! The double-take and the belly laugh – it must have felt both delightful and terrifying all at the same time! I think science viewed him and Buddhism in general, as a curiosity, until they began to open their minds beyond the protection of their egos and looked at the findings relating to neuroscience and meditation. (Ego/Fear can really crush a good conversation!) What science is learning from the practices of Buddhism is enriching science and validating what Buddhists have already known. The teacher and the student finally found each other and are enriching each other’s path.

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  • Posted by:  Felix

    How the Heck can a Leader of an Philosophy that is all about the acceptance of suffering not know whats the most spreaden human Main source of suffering?

    I guess he is not kidding which really knocks out my mind.

    1. he is one of those 10% of humans that were born with solid self esteem

    2. he never cared about basic psychology and the needs of the people.

    I mean. Those Guys pretend to know the big truth and many people misinterprete this and think that they can help them with dealing their citizen drama. In the end he only can help traumatized people doing intense spiritual bypassing and thats it.

    I mean, he got born lucky with that rare unbreakable self esteem. But people like this that dont even kno humans most basic feeling and worry just cant take that much care and emotional empathy to other people.

    And dont get me wrong, im very much into vedanta and i am aware that my ego is an illusion…

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