Ask me about stuff.
February 9, 2011 | 12 Comments
In gearing up for my big, huge (to me) launch of a daily (M-F) email about life, love, leadership, joy, and creativity based on a Buddhist point of view, I’ve asked people what they might like me to write about. Here are some of the requests I’ve received:
- Can you talk about making a distinction between drawing a boundary with someone’s unacceptable (or abusive) behaviour vs. “running away”…Especially with a partner. when do you not stay in a bad situation?
- How does one become fearless?
- How can I maintain hope and foster hope in others in difficult circumstances?
- Write more about deepening relationships while still being realistic and accepting.
- What has been the biggest eye opener you have had since embracing Buddhism?
- After a very long relationship has ended, how can you truly wish your ex partner happiness (because they deserve to be happy like anyone else) without feeling that pinched feeling when you actually imagine him happy with someone else?
- I want to be more compassionate and kind to people and change my ingrained habitual response to certain situations…(even when they) still annoy me.
- Could you do an email about distinguishing between compassion and what Pema Chodron calls “idiot compassion”?
These are all so awesome. What do you want to hear about? Sign up for the newsletter and let me know. xoxo S
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12 Comments
How to be gentle with yourself/love yourself in a genuine way.
When is the right time to open your heart?
Is it better to know exactly what you want and try to make the world work in your favor or take things one day at a time without a rigid plan? (Or something else?)
Loving again can be difficult, and you often find your heart recoiling and not trusting. Is it bad to have doubts 100% or is a little bit of doubt good?
Great, wonderful questions. They’re going on the list. Thank you…
Hi Susan,
Looking forward to your daily doses of wisdom. My thoughts are 1. for you, what has been the most helpful Buddhist practice (a few even) to connect with creativity. Same for joy.
2. What is the middle ground between letting go of hope and fear, in acceptance of reality, where you still move forward with life/goals?
If I think of more, I’ll send ’em your way.
Lisa
Excellent questions! I look forward to writing about them. Thanks and keep em coming! xo S
How do you learn to trust yourself/your choices again after ending an abusive relationship?
How do you make sure you won’t get in another one?
Important and deep questions… I will be glad to try to offer something useful. xo S
I’m not sure exactly what I mean, but sometimes I have a hard time finding the balance between planning for the future vs being in the moment – or being aware of everything’s going to change and end. I think sometimes that awareness makes me passive or paralyzed. Confused, at least! maybe you can say something about that?
Yes, I can definitely try. Thanks. xo S
The question of how to distinguish between drawing a boundary with unacceptable behavior and running away is an excellent one to tackle, as it’s one that a lot of people who are stuck in dysfunctional relationships have difficulty making. I have dealt with these issues myself and look forward to reading your writing. This and your other questions really speak to me.
Tom, excellent (and tough) topics. I look forward to trying to offer something of value. Thank you. Susan
Not sure if anyone else asked this yet, but what to do when you fall off the dharma train. How to get back on without beating yourself up. Thanks! xo