Some suggestions for developing a meditation practice

March 8, 2011   |   19 Comments

Good morning! I am so happy to talk to you again about meditation practice as part of what I’m calling The Open Heart Project. It all began on March 5, 2011. This is the 3rd post and it contains some suggestions for establishing a daily practice.

Be reasonable. Set a very doable goal. Don’t say, for example, “for the rest of my life, I will meditate every single day for 30 minutes.” The first time you miss a day, you’ll feel terrible. Instead, establish something like this: “Starting tomorrow, I will meditate Monday through Friday, for 10 minutes. For two weeks.” Whatever you decide, stick with it, and at the end, reassess.

Be consistent. Consistency is more important than duration. 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week is better than 50 minutes, one day a week.Try to practice at the same time each day. You may need to experiment to determine that time. Most people like to practice in the morning, but if you’re a night owl, you may do better later in the day.

Straighten up. Posture is important, and not just because sitting up straight enables energy to flow properly within the body. We want to avoid pain. That said, it’s not at all unusual to be mildly uncomfortable in the first days or weeks of practice. It can take a while for your body to adjust to sitting in this way and in the meantime, your foot may fall asleep or you could feel a little achy in your joints. Don’t worry, these will pass. Of course, if the pain is more than mild, you need to pay attention to this! If you’re sitting on the floor, move to a chair. Make adjustments to your posture to avoid injury.

Connect. If you decide you want to make meditation a part of your life, that is fantastic. In this case, it is very important to establish a relationship with a meditation instructor, which just means someone who has been practicing for longer than you and who is connected to a lineage you resonate with. In my tradition, Shambhala Buddhism, you can go to a Shambhala Center in your town and request such an instructor. It is free and we’ve all had the same training. It’s so good to have someone to talk to! You could also find support at a Zen or Vipassana center. The thing is to find someplace connected with lineage–no new age stuff. It is also recommended to practice with others from time to time. It’s great to practice at home alone, but it deepens your experience to sit with others.

Practice and study. Study and practice. They say that practice and study are like two wheels of a cart. With only one wheel, a cart just goes in circles. So while it’s very important to actually practice meditation, it’s as important to understand the underlying point of view. Most of us lean toward study or practice. So if you prefer “study” (i.e. learning about meditation), add some doing to the mix. If you prefer doing, add in some learning. It’s as simple as reading a few pages from a book about meditation before you sit. My suggestions:

Turning the Mind Into an Ally by Sakyong Mipham

Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior or Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by Chogyam Trungpa

Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind by Shunryu Suzuki Roshi
The Wisdom of No Escape by Pema Chodron

To close, here is the 10-minute practice from yesterday. Try to use it every day for a few days or a week and see how you feel.

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Tomorrow: 3 Popular Misconceptions About Meditation Practice (including the most popular: “Meditation means stopping thought.” NO!!)

If you know people who might like to sign up for The Open Heart Project (which includes online meditation instruction and a daily (M-F) email about becoming a meditator on and off the cushion, they can do so here.

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19 Comments

  • Posted by:  Peggy

    This is really awesome! Thanks for sharing. I decided to start a simple meditation daily practice because of your post yesterday. Will see how things go from here.

    • Posted by:  Susan

      Go Peggy! Keep me posted as you wish. If I can be helpful, please let me know.

  • Posted by:  Marcia

    I tried your 10 minute meditation this morning and was very pleased with how good I felt after such a short time. I will definitely be making time in the morning for this. I also learned things about meditation from you that I have not heard or read anywhere else. Thank you for your work. I look forward to hearing more from you.

    • Posted by:  Susan

      You are very welcome, Marcia. Glad it was helpful.

  • Posted by:  Sharon Sudderth

    I Think This May Help Me With Something I Need To Get Rid Of…Thx To You And Traci Dinwiddie…Found This Site Thru Her…

  • Posted by:  Sharon Sudderth

    Goodnite….time to Love the Moon…And then Carress the Sun…

  • Posted by:  Amit Sharma

    Hi Susan,
    Thanks a lot for this wonderful work that you have done. I am doing meditation as per the instructions given by you, there is one problem I am facing , my eyes blink time to time when I am gazing and I feel little distracted by that. Can you please give me some advice or suggestions on it.

    Thanks and Regards
    Amit

  • Posted by:  Susan

    Amit, thanks for your practice!

    Blinking is absolutely fine. The eye gaze should be soft (as opposed to staring) and quite naturally you will blink from time to time. If it is distracting, please don’t worry. Simply let the distraction go (as you are able) and return attention to breath. If you get distracted over and over, same thing: gently let go and come back. Eventually this will stop happening.

    Please let me know if this is helpful. Warmly, Susan

  • Posted by:  Amit sharma

    Thank you very very much for your valuable advice Susan, I appreciate it a lot. I have one request can you please suggest some online reading information on what type of meditation is this and what is the historical background it has. It will be very helpful to know.

    Thank and Regards
    Amit

  • Posted by:  Amit sharma

    Thank you very very much for your valuable advice Susan, I appreciate it a lot. I have one request can you please suggest some online reading information on what type of meditation is this and what is the historical background it has. It will be very helpful to know.

    Thank and Regards
    Amit

  • Posted by:  Susan

    Yes! Please read “Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior” by Chogyam Trungpa, “Turning the Mind Into an Ally” by Sakyong Mipham, and “Indestructible Truth” by Reginald Ray.

    By coincidence, I’m just about to post a list of book recommendations!

  • Posted by:  amit sharma

    Susan thank you very very much for your wonderful response. My best wishes are with you and your awesome work.

    Regards
    Amit

    • Posted by:  Susan

      Thank you, Amit!

  • Posted by:  Rich Dumas

    What a eye opening approach to meditation. Your style is inspired and sooo relaxing. Please keep sharing with us. Thank you.

    • Posted by:  Susan

      Many thanks, Rich!

  • Posted by:  Rich Dumas

    Two weeks now and I am working back in your sessions. Much is becoming obvious. The KISS theory is close but should be KIS everyone, as a key to understanding and life as we know it. Your instructions and meditations are a giant help.
    Many thanks,

    Rich

    • Posted by:  Susan

      Awesome!!

  • Posted by:  Suzie

    Thank you for this generous invitation, Susan. I wholeheartedly accept.

    • Posted by:  Susan

      Excellent!

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