Where does loving kindness come from during times of division and stress?

November 18, 2019 | 21 Comments

The meditation begins at 7:30.
Audio only version is here.

Dear Open Heart Project,

Hello! I hope you are well. I look forward to meditating together today.

There is a lot of divisiveness and contention in the world at this very moment. I feel it right along with you. Still, we are committed to open-heartedness. We want to be kind without compromising our principles. How can we navigate the current environment with strength and an attitude of loving kindness? Before today’s meditation, I offer some thoughts about where you can find both. (Spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with being “nice” or pretending you feel anything other than what you do.)

Thoughts? I always love to hear from you.

With love, Susan

p.s. On December 11-15, I’ll be in the beautiful Colorado Rockies for my annual Fearless Creativity retreat at Shambhala Mountain Center. I’d love to see you there. It’s a great time and place to get away from everything, reflect deeply about the upcoming year, and meditate in community.

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  • Posted by:  Lee


    • Posted by:  Susan Piver


  • Posted by:  Renee J

    Thank you so much Susan. I needed to be reminded to get back to loving kindness for myself and for others. Kindness and compassion appear to unlock the release from suffering about present day situations. Turning off news and social media triggers also helps. I am with you for this divine journey. Renee

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So glad this reminder came in handy and that we are on the divine journey together. That means a lot! With love, S

  • Posted by:  jerri

    This is one of my favorite meditations. You began with a profound teaching on authenticity and a guide to help me
    remember that I am not my thoughts. Opening to awareness without judgement brings freedom, compassion, and
    equanimity. Thank you!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      I’m so glad, Jerri! It is good to practice all this together. With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Arleen Garcia-Herbst

    Thank you Susan. What an insightful teaching. I’ve always beat myself up for having the least patience and compassion for my family members and thus teaching was very illuminating for me as to the why. More reason for self kindness. Much appreciated!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So glad this was useful, Arleen, and I support you 100% to be gentle and kind toward yourself. Love, S

  • Posted by:  Johanna

    Dear Susan,
    Thank you so very much for your teaching, it couldn’t have come at a better time, because I’m flying to Chile to visit my family. One of my relatives makes very hurtful racist comments, and I have a really hard time remaining calm. II will start by being kinder to myself. I have a hard time feeling loving kindness for this relative, but I will try.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You are very welcome, Johanna. It must be stress-inducing to imagine what awaits you. Please do start by being kinder to yourself and see if that makes a difference. You don’t necessarily have to try to feel anything for your relative that is not genuine, although I appreciate that you are willing to do so. This time, make softening toward yourself the priority. Sending love! Susan

      • Posted by:  Johanna

        Thank you so much Susan for your suggestion to make it a priority to be kinder to myself. This thought brings up sadness and softening.
        With love,

  • Posted by:  Kevin J Waters

    Hello Susan, thank you for this reflection,on how I developed my sense of the conversation I have towards my “SELF / MY BEING” Many of us are the “Hardest on our selves, over others, &, for years I was Most Definitely caught in that tract, &, showed when I was Engaged with others, (not seeing things as they did), creating a fair amount of
    unnecessary,”Pain,&,Suffering” ! But as I was guided along the “Path loving kindness,self compassion, mindfulness meditation,( seeking relief, self balance ), finding “Mentors, Moving into a Practice” (The open Heart Project, etc.), I can let go, &, not feel that I’m the object, or subjected to the current “Narrative, that seems to Abound around me ! Not an easy task, but I’ve found a way that often lets me “Soften the Inner Being,/ The Narrative of Self ! I hope that this may ease the Day for Some !! Peace

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You are so welcome, Kevin. Thank you for always reflecting so carefully on what you learn. With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Peacelovedarla

    Susan, your reminder to soften, lean in, remembering kindness, soften again, laugh at myself, and use gentle internal dialogue. Your meditations come at such a perfect time…I fell out of practice, am feeling impatient, judgmental, depressed, worthless, just a 180 from whom I know I am. Your love and kindness is felt here by me and it means a lot. Sincere thanks. 💕

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      And this means so very much to me. Thank you! With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Lisa

    Dear Susan

    Perfect topic for me! In my efforts to help my elder mom, I discover so much frustration with myself and with immersion in her world…and then there is the crazy world itself. 🙄

    Thank you for the reminder to be more gentle with my own self and thoughts. This is a key I lost along the way.

    Be well.


    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You are so welcome, Lisa. You are holding a lot! Wishing you (and your mom) well and sending love. Susan

  • Posted by:  Helen petriccione

    I love you very much . You are such an authentic person. You bring me great joy. Thank you so much for being you.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Helen, this makes my day! I love you too.

  • Posted by:  Farid

    Thank you Susan for this week teaching,i feel exactly the way you feel specially in these day in our country.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      It is good that we have each other…

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