Four steps to restore balance in your self and the world: Compassion (2)

October 12, 2020   |   12 Comments

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Meditation practice begins at 6:23

Hello you wonderful person,

This week we continue our exploration of the Four Immeasurables, those four qualities we each possess without end. Last week, we discussed the first, loving kindness. Please click on this video for thoughts on the second immeasurable quality, compassion.

Love, Susan

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  • Posted by:  mandy

    What a wonderful discussion. Thank you once again, Susan.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You are so welcome, Mandy.

  • Posted by:  Karen Swanson

    Thank you, Susan. “Bear witness, and be with.” I love the freedom and connection this practice fosters. I don’t have to change who I am, and the person I’m with is not being asked to change; I am free to experience and love them in the moment, without forgetting myself.
    Currently, I am caregiver for a lively and bright 2 year old girl (and totally in love w/her!) who grants me good practice of this, daily. It strengthens my ability to be with others (adults can be harder!) and everything that is occurring these days.
    In my experience, nothing brings peace and a simple kind of happiness and contentment as this practice does.
    Thank you for all that you are, and for spreading it around! Karen

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So lovely to hear from you and read your reflections, Karen! Love always, Susan

  • Posted by:  Sue May

    Thank you for this thought provoking teaching. Recently, a good friend disclosed with shame and sorrow that her marriage was ending due to spousal abuse. My immediate reaction, before I said anything, was the feeling of a stab in the gut. Was this because it resonated with my own experience, or because I felt her sorrow as my own? I know that I jumped too quickly to reassurance and support. I should have allowed the moment of resonance to continue as long as she needed. This is a good reminder to be tuned in to the strong feelings and look at them before moving to ease their impact. There is also a component of looking at my own experience and sitting with the younger self who was going through difficulty.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So wonderful, always, always, to hear about your inner experience–so genuine and heartfelt and committed. xo S

  • Posted by:  Mary Alice Alice Santoro

    Susan, I was wondering what is the difference, if there is one, between compassion and empathy.?
    It sounds like the two are the same.
    Thank you.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Good question. My sense is that compassion is more direct and empathy is more like something I feel about you–rather than a feeling that we share. But this is splitting hairs!

      • Posted by:  Mary Alice Alice Santoro

        I think it may be the opposite. Empathy is a feeling we share and compassion is something I feel toward you. But, you’re right it is splitting hairs. Thanks for your response. As always you give my brain something to ponder.

        • Posted by:  Susan Piver

          <3 S

  • Posted by:  Kevin J Waters

    Hello Susan, I’m Late Responding to Your Talk, &, Meditation. For the past few weeks I’ve been trying to track down some of my mothers History, Her family unit was completely disrupted, &, all the Children went to live with Relatives, or in some cases to Catholic Charity foster Homes !! As you can Imagine Asking 2nd. Generation Relatives for Information I was Instantly Faced With All of the Compassion I could Muster, Feeling the Pain, &, Sorrow that went along with What Intimate Parts of Others Were Able to Share With Me About my Mothers Family, &, How they were Raised, in the 1920’s with There Mother Dying of Cancer, &, there Father Diagnosed with TB. Went back to a little book where “The Dalai Lama” Talks about Kindness, &, the 4 Nobel Truths Where He Speaks of Compassion Motivated by The Awareness of The Suffering of other Beings ! My Depth, or Wisdom, &, Insight into the Experience, of the Situation I was creating would be directly Related to the Level of Compassion That I could Maintain While I was Engaged in this Family Search. Which I found to Absolutely be True !!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So interesting to take a dive into the past–and, as you say, unlocks so much sorrow. Life is so hard! And so beautiful. I know you are attuned to both. I hope your journey is going in a way that expands love and ocmpassion–it sounds like it is. With love, Susan

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