going on retreat

July 19, 2007   |   Leave a reply

will be away july 22-aug 1 at shambhala mountain center. will be on meditation retreat with my teacher, sakyong mipham rinpoche. i’m so ridiculously excited and happy. may try to blog from there, but only intermittently if at all. it sounds crazy to say that involving yourself in spiritual practice from 7a to 9p every day for a few weeks... READ MORE

gtd and spiritual practice

July 2, 2007   |   1 Comment

GTD is an amazing system for multi-leveled personal organization. There are three things I love about it: It’s enormously intelligent It shamelessly satisfies the inner geek It produces spiritual benefits It’s this last one that is so interesting. The system brings a sense of order, pleasure, and quietude– the intelligence that famously comes forth from disciplined use of GTD. This... READ MORE

business of spirituality

July 1, 2007   |   Leave a reply

Wrote this for The Worst Horse, a great, excellent site where dharma meets pop and vice versa: Skillfully Savvy: Susan Piver’s 8 Points for Selling the Dharma Without Selling It Out We who work in the world of spirituality (or want to bring spirituality into the world of work) often think that if you focus too much on the quality... READ MORE

compromise, shmompromise

June 22, 2007   |   3 Comments

“Relationships take compromise.” Is there any piece of relationship advice more ubiquitous than this? Personally, the first time I heard it, I hoped it wasn’t true. It sounded like a grim reality, one where I’d have to sacrifice what I wanted and find some way to do what the other person wanted even though it was stupid. And plus I’d... READ MORE


June 21, 2007   |   Leave a reply

Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, from “Conquering Fear” (Based on a seminar conducted in 1979 for teachers in Shambhala Training, a series of weekend programs on meditation and the view of warriorship): The starting point on the path of fearlessness is the discovery of fear. We find ourselves fearful, frightened, even petrified by circumstances. This ubiquitous nervousness provides us with a stepping... READ MORE

9 lies we tell without knowing they're lies

June 20, 2007   |   1 Comment

predictable self-deceptions their consequences and antidotes there are 9 of each I am right. Everyone else wrong. I trust that things are righter than I can ever know. I am needed. So you better treat me right. I give without agenda. I am important. I will overwhelm you with my credentials. I have no need to spread propaganda about myself.... READ MORE

108 chances

June 14, 2007   |   Leave a reply

memphis slim at antone’s in austin, tx, 1986-ish (mel brown under the hat behind him, sitting at the b-3) Buddhists say that in every moment there are 108 opportunities to wake up fully and completely, to transcend the sorrows of this world and attain bliss without end. You might find your moment in the sunset or the blossoming of a... READ MORE

CJA, RIP, 1949-2006

June 13, 2007   |   Leave a reply

Last year, a dear friend died suddenly. He was the founder of a blues club I worked in. But that doesn’t really describe him. This man, Clifford Antone, devoted everything he owned and everything he was to blues music and musicians. It’s not like he was a saint (see below), but in a sense, he was (see below). He had... READ MORE

Authentic BS

June 12, 2007   |   2 Comments

Some years ago, The New York Times ran an op-ed piece entitled, “Authentic? Never Mind” by Paul Krugman. It’s about how presidential candidates are trying to appear authentic. (Oxymoron.) One candidate, for example, switched from a Lincoln Continental to a pickup truck to appear authentic during his Senate run. Does anyone really fall for #(@) like this? Substituting the image... READ MORE

best career advice. ever.

June 11, 2007   |   2 Comments

“Never accept responsibility without authority.” I thought that to move to the “next level,” I had to take on more responsibility. I didn’t pay so much attention to who actually had the authority to make decisions about these responsibilities. Power (or whatever you want to call it) comes from more authority, not more responsibility. So now I work in a... READ MORE

sam cooke & basic goodness

June 9, 2007   |   2 Comments

I heard that Sam Cooke dreamt the song A Change is Gonna Come,woke up and wrote it down. It scared him. He thought it meant he was going to die. The song sounds like this. Lately, I’ve been listening to it repeatedly. Like maybe hundreds of times in the last several months. It makes me cry every single time. I’m... READ MORE

UK glamour mag called

June 6, 2007   |   1 Comment

what questions can you ask yourself to see if you’re ready for marriage? could i devise a short quiz for readers to test their readiness? i love things like this. a chance to try to say something i believe to be helpful, in women’s magazine-speak. without being a liar or a fool. challenge to self: try to point out the... READ MORE