7 Qualities of the Dharmic Person: #4

July 12, 2021   |   21 Comments

Audio-only version is here.
Meditation practice begins at 14:09.

Dear Open Heart Project,

I’m so glad you are signed up for this video series: The Seven Qualities of the Dharmic Person. The first quality, passionlessness, was discussed here. The second, contentment, can be found here. The third, fewer activities, is here. This week, we come to the fourth quality, good conduct. Good conduct is not about being a goody-goody but has more to do with bringing mindfulness and awareness into every aspect of your life. Please have a listen to this short talk and let me know what you think! I always love to hear from you.

Love, Susan

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21 Comments

  • Posted by:  Nuala Murphy

    Dear Susan I have been meditating with you on and off for eight years and I am always struck by your lovely authenticity and by the eloquent way you express yourself. It wraps around me like a warm, comforting blanket. Best of luck with writing your new book – it is untrodden ground yet wonderful subject matter!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Thank you, thank you, Nuala! Your kind words mean so much. Very glad we can practice together. Warmly, Susan

  • Posted by:  Susan D

    Hi Susan…….wanted to let you know how much Charles and I are enjoying The Four Noble Truths of Love…….when I first began reading it, I didn’t have the background that I have now……not to say that I’m an expert on Buddhism…..lol….but I understand the book and the points you make so much better than before. Charles bought a copy on Kindle (I’m reading my hard copy) and we bought a copy for Sarah that we’ll give her when we see her and her family next week….YEAH!
    I sincerely hope you are able to find your way through the writing of your book because based on my previous experience, I’ll understand more about the enneagram coming from you, my teacher…..you are so relatable!…..thank you…..

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Hi Susan! So glad you and Charles are enjoying 4NTL and that our practice and study together supports a deeper read. That is greawt to hear.

      Many thanks for the encouraging words about my current writing project. They inspire!

      Please give my love to Sarah. What a lovely family you have. <3

      With love, S

  • Posted by:  Alodie

    Dear Susan,
    Wishing you ease and flow and joy as you pay attention and write.
    May confusion dawn as wisdom.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      These are the perfect wishes! Many thanks. With love, S

  • Posted by:  Denise

    Bonjour Susan. Merci de partager votre expérience d’écriture ! Elle révèle tellement bien que les profondeurs de notre être nous échappent et que nous n’avons pas et ne pouvons avoir le contrôle de tout ! Quelles que soient les raisons de votre ‘dégoût’, j’espère que vous irez jusqu’au bout de cette expérience et jusqu’à la publication de ce livre qui nous apprendra certainement beaucoup sur nous-même ! Courage ! Denise

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Merci pour les encouragements, Denise! Il est très apprécié (et opportun). J’espère que Google Translate a fait du bon travail avec ces mots. <3, Susan

  • Posted by:  Sue May

    Sokuzan replied to a question about maintaining posture during meditation: Start with the intention of posture and stillness without maintaining, and keep returning to the intention. The effort to maintain causes freezing up and takes awareness away from practice. I wonder if we get used to doing things (any sort of activities) in a certain way that has been our “go to” in the past, and we expend effort to maintain that way in new situations. Or in situations that we don’t recognize as new, or in familiar situations where we are not seeing what is actually happening. The surprise of a snarl in our mental “yarn” stops us short as we try to knit our pattern, and we tend to reject it as a problem. It may indeed be a problem, but it may also be just different, needing a new skill set. That’s the core of vitality – if we can get past the difficulty and reframe as needing new energy, a new approach. I don’t mean to be preachy, but seem to have found more open creativity when (another metaphor coming!) my tone arm skips a groove.

    So grateful for the care and thought you are putting into this series (as in everything you do).

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      I. LOVE. THIS.So happy you shared this very helpful (and very Sokuzan) advice. xo always, Susan

  • Posted by:  Susan Ladd

    Thank you Susan for your sincerity and overall dedication. I practice regulary with you and rarely leave a comment but this practice was particurlary touching so wanted to mention that. Sending lovingkindness and best wishes in your writing endeavor.
    With love,
    Susan

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Susan, thank you so much for the kindness of this message. I truly appreciate it. And so glad to know we practice together. Team Susans! With love, S

  • Posted by:  mike

    My go-to knee-jerk reaction always appears whenever someone mentions ‘conduct’. Thank you so much for this uplifting and encouraging explanation of what mindful conduct really is. I particularly will take away the remembering to be present to what really is happening, instead of what we think about what is happening, or if we’re, even worse, lost in thought and not paying any attention to what we’re doing at all. Being mindful during our daily happenings can teach us so much, no doubt. I’ve had little tastes of this. Your encouragement will no doubt help me keep that mindfulness front of mind, or maybe even non-dually deep of heart in direct experience :o) And what better conduct to observe than those angsts that so quickly snag our attention. I wish you the best with completing your new book. No doubt, the exploration of becoming more deeply aware by knowing your angst will be an important accomplishment too. Maybe the wisdom you acquire will show up in your next book. Thank you for being vulnerable in sharing your angst with us as an example of ‘conduct’. I appreciate your excellent teachings! Thank you!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Mike, I deeply appreciate this soulful, helpful, insightful comment. Many thanks for taking time to share it.

      List of things I appreciate about it include: hesitation about the word conduct; equating conduct with presence and feeling motivated to continue to do so; your kind encouragement about my own journey. Thank you, thank you! With love, Susan

      • Posted by:  mike

        Thank you so very much, Susan!

        • Posted by:  Susan Piver

          You are so welcome. Stay in touch!

  • Posted by:  Marsha

    🙏🏼
    I love your work, your presentation of the teachings … so insightful and real.
    Blessings to you!!
    Marsha

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Marsha, thank you so much for taking the time to leave these encouraging words! They mean a lot to me. With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Sue May

    All of the supportive posts surely must re-emphasize the importance of Sangha – and while you are this Sangha’s primary teacher and founder, you, too, Susan, are part of our corpus. We keep each other in our hearts. You are not alone in facing your intransigent writing project. And one more Sokuzan quote that I have found particularly applicable: “The knot of the mind untangles itself in space.” Wishing us all space.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      OMG how perfect! Thank you, thank you.

  • Posted by:  Betsy Loeb

    Dear Susan,
    I just listened to your talk on “Good Conduct”. I was surprised and relieved to hear your explanation. “Good conduct” hearkens back to a grade card and did I misbehave in a class?! What a relief that I don’t have to judge/grade myself!! And, I am so impressed with your honesty/authenticity re: your current struggle with writing your next book. Your questions showing interest in your present struggle is so valuable to me in having a better understanding of “Good Conduct”. And, it is so revealing about you! This is why i continue to listen to you and so appreciate your teachings. Thank you, thank you. May you have an “ah-ha” moment sooner than later! (Not sure if that’s a “good” Buddhist offering!!) betsy

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