7 Qualities of the Dharmic Person: #3

June 28, 2021   |   16 Comments

Audio-only version is here.
Meditation practice begins at 16:14.

Dear Open Heart Project,

I’m so glad you are signed up for this video series: The Seven Qualities of the Dharmic Person. Today we discuss the third quality. The first quality, passionlessness, was discussed here. The second, contentment, can be found here.

This third quality is called fewer activities. It seems that as our practice progresses, we become less and less interested in, well, BS (of lack of a better phrase). We naturally focus more and more on what is essential, important, and meaningful. As with all the Qualities, you don’t have to try to accomplish them; they arise on their own. Please have a listen to this talk to learn more.

Thoughts, questions? I always love to hear from you.

Love, Susan

In other news: A revised and expanded edition of the very first book I ever wrote (and The New York Times best selling) The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do” was just published last week. It includes discussion (and questions) on topics that weren’t particularly salient when I first wrote the book: the role of social media in a couple’s life, the vast political divides we now experience, and pressing societal concerns that also have impact on our home life. If you (or anyone you know) is thinking of committing to a relationships, this book might be helpful! xo S

The Hard Questions is available now here.

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  • Posted by:  Marielle

    Hi, Susan,
    I just have to tell you how yourwords on the third dharmic quality resonated with me. I work for the USG overseas and I just completed a 3 week mandatory quarantine in a Chinese hotel in order to return to my job in China. 21 days locked in a room with an alarm on the door and a camera in the hall, unable to leave ( despite being vaccinated). It might sound at first like prison, Chinese rules are certainly draconian, and yet life was very simple. Nowhere to go, nothing to be done except be with myself all day every day. It turned out to be an astonishingly freeing (not that I wish for a repeat under that particular regime) and creative time. And I loved the view, watching the boats go up and down the river in Shanghai, just watching what was happening at dawn, at dusk, etc. Simplicity is joy.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      What a story you have to tell! So glad you shared it. Fully agreed: simplicity is joy…

    • Posted by:  Patty Weyhrich

      Thank you Susan for the practice. Felt relaxed when you reminded us to feel open around our heart and stomach and feel grounded in our seat

      • Posted by:  Susan Piver

        So glad to hear it, Patty. Love always, Susan

  • Posted by:  Jitske

    Dear Susan,
    ‘Fewer activities’ reminds me of my new approach to ‘material things’ such as clothes. I really like colours, fabrics and so on, but because we have three children and I choose to work as a creative writer with ‘receptivity’ as a daily worth, until now, I gladly bought few clothes for myself and took over the clothes of my mother or sister. Fewer clothes is the new me, but now, I permission myself to buy two of a piece of clothing that makes my heart sing. Like a very cool, wide trousers that feels so comfortable. Or a short vest. You only need two. One to wear and one if the one you wore needs to be washed. ‘Fewer activities, fewer clothes’ 🙂 Love, Jitske (from Holland)

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Love this!! xo S

  • Posted by:  mike

    Thank you so much, Susan! It’s always so helpful and such a pleasure! So very good to meditate with you and your Open Heart Sangha!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So happy we can practice together, Mike! With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Sue May

    Coincidentally, I was waiting in my dentist’s office today, and noticed a lovely watercolor of a forest, then the complementary decor pieces, put together by someone with wonderful color sensibilities. No phone, no magazines, no meditation. Very restful and calming before having my teeth cleaned. Simplifying in some ways has been easy – getting rid of clothes I no longer wear, choosing not to keep augmenting my yarn stash just because a skein catches my eye, deliberately allowing space in my day to read. In other ways, there is a true FOMO and temptation to take all of the courses, do all of the seminars, watch all the videos on Buddhism, meditation, etc. I am getting better at deciding not to click, at titrating dharma wisdom so that I can contemplate more fully. I feel that I am sometimes hungry for more knowledge and understanding, but that bolting too much will just cause mental nausea and will weaken that very understanding. I love this series, and that the qualities arise without striving.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So much wisdom here. xoxo S

  • Posted by:  Kevin J Waters

    Thank You Susan, It’s been a while for me , to tune in on something “like Fewer Activites” Has reminded me that Between Practice, and Life I lived by a List ! This to do Now, to Later, to do inbetween, Recently Circumstances have made Me Aware That My Practice was another Item on that List! Well the list went to Hell, and I turned to what has been a part of My Life for a long Time, and That Was My Practice ! 1st. and For Most, Your Message Reminded me that living by that List Was a Form Of Bondage ! No More, Life is Coming more Naturaly !! Namaste

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      The no-list list! Perfect. And great to hear from you, as always. <3 S

  • Posted by:  Kelley

    Such a delightful talk and meditation Susan. Thank you! 💞

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You are so welcome! Many thanks for listening. Warmly, S

  • Posted by:  Barbara Matakis

    Thank you, so needed!

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Glad to hear it! All best to you, Barbara.

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