7 Qualities of the Dharmic Person: #2

June 14, 2021   |   29 Comments

Audio-only version is here.
Meditation practice begins at 12:40.

Dear Open Heart Project,

Hello! I hope you are well and feeling a return to a bigger and more beautiful normalcy. Whatever normal means!

This video is the second in our new series, “The Seven Qualities of the Dharmic Person” (aka you). These qualities arise organically from our meditation practice.

The first quality, passionlessness, was discussed here. I include the link in case you missed it/are interested, but you don’t have to go back and watch if you’d rather not. You can jump in right here, with dharmic quality #2: contentment.

As I mention in the short talk that precedes our meditation practice, most of us are not on speaking terms with contentment. In fact, we are actively discouraged from it! Instead, we are continually urged to move faster, acquire more, go further…just keep moving. Why?! Of course we have ambitions and plans (I know I do) but what usually happens when we accomplish our ambitions or execute our plans is…they begin to feel valueless. If I can do it, it must not be that great, better keep pushing, trying, efforting, more, more, more. At least that’s what my inner voices say.

I’ve discovered that more I experiment with contentment–basic satisfaction with who I am and what I possess–the more energy and joy I have. Energy and  joy turn out to be far more efficacious in accomplishing things (not to mention a general sense of well-bing) than constantly shoving myself to assume a different, better, more impressive shape.

How does one accomplish such contentment? Have a listen! As always, I love to hear your responses.

Love, Susan

PS Look for the next video in two weeks (June 28), on dharmic quality #3, “fewer activities.”

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  • Posted by:  Patty Weyhrich

    Thank you Susan.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You are so welcome, Patty!

    • Posted by:  Diane Mortier

      Yes, yes, yes. Have been recently noticing withdrawing from the brain-furies into the breath center.

      • Posted by:  Susan Piver

        Good to hear your reflections! Keep them coming! With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Sandy Betz

    Thank you, once again, Susan. I love this concept of contentment. What a great reminder that we can be content in our minute to minute life. So much gratitude for this “simple “ practice. It has changed my life.


    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      It changed mine, too. So happy we are practicing contentment together. <3 S

  • Posted by:  Gwendolyn

    thank you….I am at the stage of my life that I love “contentment”. It is such a lovely experience to enjoy simple pleasures and stay open to whatever arrives in my experience.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So happy you are experiencing the delights of contentment… With love, S

  • Posted by:  James H

    Thanks Susan. I seem to have been falling for quite a while now and can confirm that there is no ground. Some large vats of custard, but no ground.
    Much love x

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      You make falling look good! Also, custard doesn’t hurt–thanks for the reminder. You’re awesome. With love, S

    • Posted by:  Jenny

      James….I feel your custard fall. But Susan reminds me that we can begin again at any time. No judgment. We are in this together!

  • Posted by:  Sue May

    The CTR quote always reminds me of Buzz Lightyear – “falling with style.” There have been times in my life (the entire decade of the 1990s, for example), when shoes kept falling on my head and life was careening from one fraught moment to another, when I was desperate for calm, ordinariness. And then in more no-big-deal years, I found it interesting that I sought excitement. And here I am today, seeing the constant change in nature, in the people around me, in my own path, full of curiosity and trying to hold the small, quiet center of contentment within every day. And meditation is indeed central. Thank you so much for everything the OHP offers.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      “falling with style” Love it! You are such an excellent student/sangha-sister/ all-around human. Love, S

    • Posted by:  jane


      And toy story has a lot to offer.


    • Posted by:  Anett

      Thank you Sue , you find the words is m looking for.. ❤️🙏🏼❤️
      so happy to practice together and seeing you in our study groups always gives a warm feeling 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼Anett

  • Posted by:  Tony LaFrance

    Thank you Susan.

    Nice to reflect on we are falling with nothing to hold onto however the good new is there is no ground. We each have some many expectation and to just be being mindful as they come.


    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      I appreciate and share your wish to be mindful as the ground shifts and shifts… Warmly, S

  • Posted by:  Amy

    So beautifully expressed.!!!!
    Thank you always Susan for your words and wisdom! A great ‘view on falling.

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      Thank you, Amy! <3 S

  • Posted by:  jane

    I love the quote and it’s one that I was trying to recall recently, “….there is no ground.” it’s an awesome concept. Uplifting and enlightening.

    Beautiful dress if I might say so.

    Best wishes,

    Ps my littlies are little yoga and meditation girls. We were introduced properly by you and they have found their own level through online offerings for youngsters. But we have you to thank for enlightening their Mum and thus their introduction xx

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      That quote means the world to me, too. And thanks for the kind words about the dress! Yay for summer dresses season.

      So deeply wonderful to hear that we practice together as a family… That means the world to me.

      With love, S

  • Posted by:  Anett

    Thank you Susan , for this helpful dharma talk.
    I forget sometimes to remember.❤️

    Thank you for the comments – helpful too.❤️

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      “forget to remember” ME TOO!! Happy to be on the journey together, Anett. With love, Susan

  • Posted by:  Nicole Bloam

    i have a handout of the that trungpa rinpoche quote along with a mischievous photo of rinpoche from a class i took at the seattle shambhala center tacked up on my fridge. when i actually take the time to look at it, it always makes me smile

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      I think I know the photo you mean!

  • Posted by:  Karen Swanson

    thank you, Susan – again, this was exactly what I needed. the older I get, the more I think of my paternal grandmother – a wonderful home and hearth kind of woman who exuded contentment. I use to wonder how she did it, hanging mostly at home, cooking and knitting and listening to the radio… I guess I still do wonder, but I also value it a whole lot more, so my wonder is more a quality of wonderment! love, Karen

  • Posted by:  Cynthia de Luise

    Amazing. I am so calmed by Susan

    • Posted by:  Susan Piver

      So happy we can practice together!

  • Posted by:  Carlie

    Thank you for your teachings, so genereus. I sometimes struggle to be content. But aim to be grateful. Thank you for reminding us and teaching. Wish you well.

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